Monday, February 28, 2005
MomitudeIt's snowing a little bit today. Pretty. Yesterday it was in the sixties and tomorrow it's supposed to be in the fifties but today it's snowing. Yup. Indiana.
I was reading an article somewhere, by somebody*, that stated that no matter how old we get, there are still times when we want our mother. Our fifty-year-old mother.
When our mothers are young, we don't consider them 'friends.' Sometimes we don't even consider them sentient all the time. They're just Mommy, when they're young. We don't even know they were young till we look at old pictures. And then we're blown away because, "Oh my gosh, look how YOUNG she was there!"
But as we get older, our mothers seem to stay the same, and somehow the years between us don't matter as much as they used to.
They stay the same, that is, until we take a good long look at them and it hits us that they look old. Not just mom-old, but OLD. Wrinkly. And you know there's white underneath the Miss Clairol. And they aren't as sure-footed as they used to be.
This is shocking, but it's okay, as long as the MOM is still there inside the stranger-every-day body. You know, MOM. The lady who can make magic with a word or a touch? Her? That's the one.
Good thing WE'LL never get old like that, huh.
I've read that when we are in our twenties, the fifty-year-old mother is somehow at her peak of Mom-ness and Friend-ness. Our fifty-year-old mother is an expert in so many things.
What we don't realize is that our fifty-year-old mother is still missing HER fifty-year-old mother.
And what very few of you know yet, is that your fifty-year-old mother is still as insecure and wondering as she was when she was in her twenties. Your fifty-year-old mother is beating herself to death over mistakes she made when you were three.
How do I know this? I'd rather not say.
The seventy-year-old mother is still cool. Still Mom. It's just that the fragility is starting to show, and the mortality thing comes to mind more than we'd like.
The fifty-year-old Mom is the epitome of Momitude. She KNOWS things. We should listen more to our fifty-year-old Mom.
Unless she's a meddling idiot with outdated stupid ideas and a lot of unwanted advice, of course. You don't have to listen then.
Chances are, however, that if your fifty-year-old Mom is mean and judgmental and delights in hurting people's feelings, she was exactly the same when she was in her twenties. Bodies change a lot**. Personalities seldom do.
If your own mommy doesn't appreciate you, come right on over here. I'm not saying exactly how old this Mommy is, but she's in her peak and prime of Momitude.
I have a lot of advice, but I'll wait till you ask me for it***.
*If I knew the author and the name of the article, I'd have mentioned it up above, silly.
**Unless you're Jamie Lee Curtis.
***Most of the time.
Posted by Mamacita (The REAL one) @ 6:02 PM | |